This is a hot topic. I only say that in a sense that this is a must needed conversation. Not to say it’s not, but more than likely, your girls have never had this role. So here is how they can help 🙂
- They should ask for or be given a copy of the timeline. And I personally feel it would be fantastic that they all got one and went over it, but I understand that there is so much going on to plan for your wedding day. What will they do with it? They will know when your flowers should have arrived, when makeup is supposed to be done, when you are out of your robes and into dresses and where to clean the room.
- They should keep track of your stuff. They might be full of nerves too. After all, everyone wants to look good and do all the right things. I just think having a good list will really explain what is super necessary and helpful. If they each are assigned a job, how much easier would your day be? Maid/matron of honor has the timeline duty, the second one has the duty of making sure your stuff is safe and at the right place at the right time, the third one is in charge of wrinkles on dresses. They could call the day before or text to be sure everyone is good to go. (Trust me, I have seen so many weddings with ladies steaming dresses. If you feel like you need to, you could always come earlier to make sure these odds and ends are done. You get the point right? In the early stages of wedding planning, I’d do this and get them excited to help. I PROMISE, the people who love you want to help as long as they know their roles in advance.
- I would have a little chat with them leading up to the wedding at your bridal shower/bachelorette party and tell them again what you hope to make the day perfect. They could bag up your accessories that you will need for photos and take tags off, and place all the things in a box ready to go for the next day. They should be making sure you are hydrated and all your things are packed.
If they know their roles and that it’s important to you that they are helpful and give you that needed relief; it will make for such an ease on wedding day. I think giving them expectations and making it fun, will lead to the best results. Stay tuned for a part 2 on this, as I want to survey my past brides to give you the BEST TIPS!!!!